tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21615364822606038242024-02-20T12:13:31.843-08:00A Submitted Wife<i>"Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord."</i>Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01465557928988017585noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161536482260603824.post-69783332052810454842014-05-25T21:33:00.001-07:002014-05-25T21:33:23.201-07:00SummertimeThe winter and beginning of spring were hectic this year. Bill had some career adjustments so I took a part-time job from home, then enrolled in some college courses at his urging. I am continuing these classes and working an internship, so we have had to put little man in pre-school. It's been different from what I'm used to, but I have enjoyed it much more than I thought.<br />
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I forgot how much I liked school and I am really enjoying the things I've learned. This was mostly to help Bill with a consulting business he has on the side, but I have really enjoyed it and brought on a few clients of my own using the skills I have learned so far. Of course, that has meant less time online.<br />
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For now, I am only taking the one class and a half-day at work, so I have a bit of time left over to blog after doing what needs doing. I am also taking the time now to work on some personal improvement again, starting a workout routine to improve my figure, and adding some personal and household projects I've been putting off.<br />
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For now, I am enjoying the warm weather, the scent of honeysuckle, and the chance to lay out in the sun and swim in the pool on these lazy days. Bill has introduced some new things into our personal and disciplinary life but I am still debating on how much detail to go into on the blog, and want to check with him about what and how much to share now that I am blogging again. All I say for now is some things have been intense but I am learning more to trust and yield and it has brought us closer in the end, even when I was resistant to some changes at first.Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01465557928988017585noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161536482260603824.post-77694959484989158592013-10-18T11:40:00.002-07:002013-10-20T17:09:17.903-07:00A Day In The Life<div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="color: #444444; font-family: inherit; line-height: 18px;">A few bloggers I read - <a href="http://margeryandtheman.wordpress.com/2013/10/11/day-in-the-life/" target="_blank">Margery at Margery and the Man</a>, <a href="http://verusconditio.wordpress.com/2013/10/18/a-day-in-the-life/" target="_blank">Stingray at Verus Conditio</a>, & <a href="http://hislordshipsdomain.blogspot.com/2013/10/a-day-in-kings-haven-part-one.html" target="_blank">Sigyn at His Lordship's Domain</a> - have written posts about what a typical day looks like in their home. I enjoy reading these, so I thought I would join in with a post of my own.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="color: #444444; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="color: #444444; line-height: 18px;">We usually wake around 4:30. Bill likes to go to the gym before work and leaves early enough to beat most of the traffic, so he is a very early riser. He usually goes straight to the shower and I get him a cup of coffee (thank God for coffee pots with built-in timers) and start breakfast while he showers and gets dressed. I put away the dishes from the night before, pack his lunch, and fill a Thermos with more coffee for him to take to work.</span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="color: #444444; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="color: #444444; line-height: 18px;">Breakfast is usually pretty simple - scrambled eggs and toast with sausage or bacon. I sit at the table with him and sometimes I'll eat. Other days, I just drink a glass of juice or milk and eat breakfast later, with out son. We talk some, but he is out the door by 5am and I usually go back to bed until 6:30. Sometimes I read, but usually I sleep.</span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="color: #444444; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="color: #444444; line-height: 18px;">At 6:30, my alarm goes off. I get up and start the day with prayers - the Daily Offering, the day's Mystery of the rosary, and sometimes personal prayers as well. Then I take a shower. I usually leave off makeup until later in the day, other than tinted lip gloss, and leave my hair damp and braided or in a bun (this makes it wavy when I take it down, which Bill likes, and is less damaging than using hot rollers or styling gels). I dress for the day, put a load of laundry in the washer, and wake up our son.</span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="color: #444444; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="color: #444444; line-height: 18px;">I fix my son's breakfast and, if I haven't eaten already, then I will sit and eat with him. If I have, I will sit at the table while he eats and drink a glass of lemon water. I wash up the breakfast dishes, wipe the counters, sweep the kitchen (we have a dog and cat in the house, so it has to be done daily), and set the table for the next meal. I also check the calendar and to-do list on the refrigerator to plan my day.</span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="color: #444444; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="color: #444444; line-height: 18px;">I try to take care of outside chores like gardening, weeding the flower beds, and sweeping the porches in the morning, while it is still cool. This is also when I scoop out the cats' litter boxes and give the toilets a quick scrub with the toilet brush. I do any other bathroom cleaning that needs doing at the same time, but save most of it for a deep-clean on Wednesdays (other days have other areas they are focused on). My son usually follows me around and helps as much as he can outside, or plays blocks or legos while I clean inside, and then we take the dogs for a walk.</span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="color: #444444; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="color: #444444; line-height: 18px;">Once that is finished, it is learning and play time with my son. He is not school-age yet, but we still spend 20 minutes or so working on colors, numbers, the alphabet and things like that, alternating with 20-30 minutes of play and creative times. Since this is our "school" time and will transition into more learning once he is older, most of the play is educational - building, sand & water table, painting or drawing, or reading books.</span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="color: #444444; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="color: #444444; line-height: 18px;">The schedule adjusts here depending on what day it is and what needs to be done. I try to fit most of the non-perishable grocery shopping, errands, doctor's appointments and anything else that requires driving to town in the morning. Other than that, I use the time for daily chores or hobbies, or spend more time with my son. We both have a snack at some point around 10-10:30. If we are going to the park in the afternoon, my son takes a nap after this. </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="color: #444444; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="color: #444444; line-height: 18px;">We go to church at noon for Mass, which means either leaving home around 11:30 or planning our in-town trips accordingly. We eat lunch after Mass, either at home or in town, if I have money to and if it fits into the day's plan. If I need to buy perishable things like meat and/or dairy, I buy them after lunch and then go home, or pick up lunch in the grocery store deli while shopping. </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="color: #444444; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="color: #444444; line-height: 18px;">We get back home in the evening around 1pm or so, unless it's a day we got to the park, and my son goes down for a nap. His nap time, which can last anywhere from 1 to 3 hours, is my "me" time. Sometimes I use it for extra housework or productive hobbies but, usually, I spend it online or reading. Now that I am doing some work from home, I am using much of the time for that.</span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="color: #444444; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="color: #444444; line-height: 18px;">Around 4pm, or earlier if my son wakes before then, I run a tub of warm water and let him take a bath while I fix my hair and put on makeup. Then I give the house a final once-over and pick up toys or other clutter and vacuum if it is needed. My son puts on clean clothes and I try to set him up with coloring or a project that will keep him somewhat calm until Bill gets home and can unwind, and then I fix our evening snack.</span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="color: #444444; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="color: #444444; line-height: 18px;">Bill usually gets home around 5:30 and expects a small snack ready. When he gets home, I greet him and take his Thermos and lunchbox and things. I get him a drink and a snack and bring it to him in the living room, and make sure he has the remote so he can turn the television on if he wants to. I usually read Munchkin a story at this time, to help him calm down and keep him from climbing all over his daddy and bothering him while he tries to relax. </span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #444444; line-height: 18px;">Then I go back into the kitchen. On a good day, I already have most of the meal prepped or in the crock-pot and am just putting on finishing touches. On a normal day, I am scrambling to get everything cooked so dinner will be ready around 7pm. After we eat, Bill usually drinks another cup of coffee and watches TV or reads and we send Munchkin to brush his teeth and change into his pajamas while I wash dishes and wipe up the table.</span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="color: #444444; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="color: #444444; line-height: 18px;">We try to have the little one in bed around 8, following evening prayers and bedtime story or two, and then we go to bed sometime around 8:30 or 9. I give a brief account of my day to Bill - what I got done, what I didn't, how I can improve, and take any discipline or advice for how to do better. After that, we may snuggle, talk for a bit, or do some of those other things husbands and wives do.</span></span></div>
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Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01465557928988017585noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161536482260603824.post-39502630493276728422013-10-14T19:34:00.001-07:002013-10-14T20:17:38.520-07:00I'm BackI had forgotten this blog for a while, until I found the password in a notebook while I was cleaning out my desk. Life has been hectic and we have had ups and downs, another job change, and I had fallen off the wagon a bit. I took a job outside the home for several months and it did not work out well - the housework wasn't up to either of our standards, we wasted a lot of money on eating out because I was tired, and I was generally tired and irritable and horrible to be around.<br />
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I have been back home for a few weeks now, since they announced a layoff and I resigned in hopes that someone who needed the job worse could stay. Bill has given me permission to work from home up to 4 hours a day with an online call center and I am going to try that, but my priority is to get back to being the wife I know I should be and getting my home in order once again.<br />
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The next few weeks, for me, will revolve around deep cleaning and trying to get my servant's heart back and my attitude under control, so I may work through one or more of the marriage books I have again as a refresher.Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01465557928988017585noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161536482260603824.post-32696214738622872392012-03-04T22:37:00.000-08:002012-03-04T22:37:42.171-08:00Setting Expectations<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgsI53a-Auqd-qCwyWbYdFhWTQd68z_nUloedYX-1aJzszmLFIS9j7gOBRPPrMg2CMmDJHGchhp3PnnBdmVsKdfTb_mAWCkmC5N4Xi2GBavM6pOIUtCWQCMBr3p5FoaDoOctGJnmJ9OGts/s1600/kneeling.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgsI53a-Auqd-qCwyWbYdFhWTQd68z_nUloedYX-1aJzszmLFIS9j7gOBRPPrMg2CMmDJHGchhp3PnnBdmVsKdfTb_mAWCkmC5N4Xi2GBavM6pOIUtCWQCMBr3p5FoaDoOctGJnmJ9OGts/s200/kneeling.jpg" width="103" /></a></div>Bill and I talked about the way things have been going, where we have fallen behind, and what we want and expect from eachother. We have both been under a lot of financial stress, so his job will help with much of that and allow us to get back into a normal routine.<br />
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I was also expecting too much of myself in certain areas, and focusing on some things to the point that I was neglecting other areas that were more important to Bill. He agreed that I was trying to commit to a chore and household schedule beyond what would work with a toddler at home, so he helped me set a few basic goals and tasks to do first each day. After those are done, I can do the rest if I have time and feel like it is needed, but he is only going to hold me accountable for the things he really cares about.<br />
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The first is something I still struggle with - getting up on time and showered and dressed, instead of just lounging around. He also mentioned that he would prefer for me to change into an attractive dress or skirt outfit before he gets home, put on a little makeup, and to wear heels rather than tennis shoes in the evening. I have been in the habit of having my hair up in a ponytail or bun and have been wearing old pants and t-shirts or frumpy dresses far too much, He says those are fine for house and yard work and hanging out but he'd like for me to try to be more attractive for him when he gets home. I used to do this and I'll admit I felt better about myself when I did, but it's just fallen to the wayside.<br />
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For the housework, the main tasks left are to vacuum on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, sweep the kitchen floor daily, dust at least weekly, and have laundry and dishes washed and put away each day. He also wants the bed to be made, which is a big deal to him but something I often forget, and for me to spend at least 15-20 minutes a day on decluttering until the house is neater and more organized. He is also holding be accountable for my personal earnings goals on my work-from-home job and on sticking to my workout routine because those are things I really need but tend to procrastinate on.<br />
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For his part, he is realizing how insecure I felt with our finances all out of order and how stressed I was getting trying to balance everything else and put extra work in to get money to pay for some of the things I wanted. We are in the process of working out a family budget to make sure things are taken care of and I have a better idea of how much is left to spend on groceries and other items each month. Things are still tight at the moment but he said if he gets a raise he'll consider giving me an additional $20-50 per week as sort of a personal allowance to save or use for shopping, eating out, and other odds and ends that come up.<br />
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He is also going to till the garden spot up for me and help me transplant some of the seeds once they have sprouted, but the trade off there is that I will be responsible for most of the watering, weeding, and care of it and I will be in trouble if it gets out of control or food starts spoiling on the vine. Still, it should be useful because I love having fresh produce and lettuce and tomatoes for salad and I will have fresh herbs for cooking. It will also help us save on groceries so I might be able to splurge on a few treats at the store more often.<br />
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He also said that we will be going to bed earlier most nights, to give us time to review the day and have some alone time before it's time to go to sleep. This will give him time to administer or assign any punishments for breaking the rules and will also give us time to talk and cuddle and all without feeling rushed. I like to talk and hold each other and decompress at the end of the day and we were getting to bed so late it was keeping him up and annoying him because he was not getting enough sleep. I guess we'll be starting that tomorrow, because Little Man was up until almost midnight tonight and I'm up late after getting him settled down and asleep.Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01465557928988017585noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161536482260603824.post-4897694887199292242012-03-01T21:22:00.000-08:002012-03-01T23:54:59.114-08:00RebootI wanted to check in and let y'all know that I will hopefully be posting again soon.<br />
We were without internet access for a few months but just got it back.<br />
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I will say that life has been different the past few months and Mr. B and I fell into a sort of complacency. He went through a layoff at work and was at home while searching for a new job. The extra time to spend together was wonderful, but we let a lot of routines slip, both in housework and in discipline and protocol. Now that he is back to work at another company, we are getting back to our normal routines.<br />
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Since it's a new month, I'm going to really try to focus on meeting his needs and getting things back in order. He also mentioned going back over our rules and discipline protocol and tweaking it to fit our current situation. He has been letting a lot slide due to the change in circumstances, and because Little Man's age means both that it is harder to keep up with my household duties as is and that we have less private time for discipline and couple time.<br />
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I am so glad to see him happy again, because he loves this new job and was under so much stress at the old one when they announced a merger and then a layoff when the merger failed. Still, he is working longer hours and driving much further to work each day and I can tell he is tired when he gets home. I want to make sure that I am keeping him as happy as possible and let him know how much I appreciate everything he does for Little Man and I.Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01465557928988017585noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161536482260603824.post-46405255023985958482011-10-15T20:33:00.000-07:002011-10-15T20:33:23.385-07:00My First Spankings<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEimmF78DYNUuL7BA83Lh2J705sUcrET-k2IFhff_vGyGt4TZi7ZvfCB7I6P9Iz4pjrUKz3ntl5C1OpShE_C43jpFD4_Kmd-nf1VwwE9bWm8Cvpc_-ftkhqZOZnbUSxBTCff5Z_SxaG6b4c/s1600/spanking1.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="160" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEimmF78DYNUuL7BA83Lh2J705sUcrET-k2IFhff_vGyGt4TZi7ZvfCB7I6P9Iz4pjrUKz3ntl5C1OpShE_C43jpFD4_Kmd-nf1VwwE9bWm8Cvpc_-ftkhqZOZnbUSxBTCff5Z_SxaG6b4c/s200/spanking1.jpg" width="200" /></a></div>The last few days have been pretty interesting. Bill and I had discussed what I need to get done each day and what the punishments for each thing left undone would be, so I knew what to expect. I did try my best to get everything accomplished, but we set the rules and expectations a little high for a reason, because they are a goal to work toward and are based on what I should be getting done but have been letting slide pretty regularly.<br />
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I did good on Wednesday and got everything done except for being up on time. I have a bad problem with sleeping in or lounging around in my nightgown, so the first to rules are that I have to be up by 8 and showered/dressed by 9, with an additional swat for each 10 minutes late on either. He did spank me on Thursday night, more as a learning experience than anything else. I got 16 swats with various implements - a hairbrush, wooden spoon, belt, wooden spatula/turner, and his hand. I was nervous and had a lot of anticipation leading up to it. When it was time for the actual spanking, I was wondering why on earth I brought it up again and agreed to it this time around. For the most part, it wasn't that bad, although a few hurt pretty badly, and the spoon seriously hurt. He asked later on how it felt and all and I made the mistake of telling him that it wasn't all that bad and not that hard, but the spoon really hurt. He told me he was trying to be gentle, and I told him that he didn't need to because I really needed the ones for punishment to be hurty enough to make me not want a repeat (yeah, me and my big mouth).<br />
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Friday, I was just dragging. I had a bunch of other stuff to do and wasted too much time online, so I didn't get a lot of the housework done. Anyway, it ended up adding up to 34 swats. Not too bad, except that I had told him the night before that punishment needed to feel like it, and he reminded me of that beforehand. That made me a little worried but, hey, we agreed. He used the wooden spoon, which was already the stingiest, and by about number 4 I was really wondering what had gotten into my head to make me consent to this. It was all I could do to hold still and be quiet so I didn't wake our son up or get the dogs to barking. By the end, I was definitely more contrite.<br />
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The one thing I've noticed, especially Friday night, as how much closer I feel to Bill. It's like this has changed the dynamic of our relationship even more and made me more submissive. I have been working on obeying and submitting to him for a while now, because of the biblical teaching on marriage and the importance of wifely submission and the husband as head of the household, but this just touches me somewhere inside and has given me a greater desire to please and honor and obey him. It is also teaching me to trust him more, because I have to give up more control in our relationship and fully trust that he will be fair and not harm me, and that is something that just feels good to be able to do, but which I tend to fight in our day-to-day life.<br />
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I have also noticed he seems to be more tender to me and attentive to my needs in our daily life, maybe because he does feel more free to tell me what he wants and needs me to do and knows I will listen to him instead of ignoring it like before. I had a 5k race this morning, so he told me to focus on that today and not worry about the chores, just to rest and recover. We spent most of the day snuggled up on the couch together watching movies, which we hadn't done in a long time, and he kept hugging me, rubbing my shoulders, and telling me how much he loves and appreciates me.Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01465557928988017585noreply@blogger.com25tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161536482260603824.post-54029263426257649002011-10-12T08:56:00.000-07:002011-10-12T08:56:50.940-07:00Starting Out<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiL5qlLNgF4ItS9LO8blo-IOO6aiJCpAiOvZyGQt7KRrDIUxaMFVZKkH_9XsXbSf2Ipp4DLfEMhp0AiyotPDKa1pbeU1hh3PS1IyMTjH8KG6J02eW77MTpYRQnTclSUunHJqKNkJwoDSNA/s1600/4255018707_cfce66f689_m.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="160" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiL5qlLNgF4ItS9LO8blo-IOO6aiJCpAiOvZyGQt7KRrDIUxaMFVZKkH_9XsXbSf2Ipp4DLfEMhp0AiyotPDKa1pbeU1hh3PS1IyMTjH8KG6J02eW77MTpYRQnTclSUunHJqKNkJwoDSNA/s200/4255018707_cfce66f689_m.jpg" width="200" /></a></div><br />
I guess you could say this a new beginning. Bill & I had experimented will all sorts of things and ideals in our relationship before, but we had put the cart before the horse. Early on, we had tried some BDSM type things and even a more full-time D/s lifestyle, but there was too much trying to live up to what we were reading about online. We also didn't really have enough stability and maturity in our relationship then for the type of dynamic we were trying to create and of course we were both still fighting for control and I wanted even submission to be my way and on my terms.<br />
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This is different though. I don't really have the words to explain or describe it but, just like biblical submission and traditional marriage as a lifestyle is different from a fetish type of dominance and submission, I feel like this sort of domestic discipline is different at least in some ways from a fetish "scene" type spanking. Of course, it is erotic, and there are similarities, but it seems like a different dynamic. Before there was always the idea that even in submission, I was in control. Now, he is, and I am not. Where the spanking before were more for arousal, these will be for punishment, which means I don't get to pick what it will be, how hard, etc and so on.<br />
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It scares me a little, because I still have problems with the idea of giving up control and part of me wonders what I am getting myself into. I've asked him to discipline me and hold me accountable, but also to not let me back out when I decide it's too much trouble and get all "owww, I hurts, I don't wanna".<br />
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That's sort of how it went when we first started talking about this a couple months ago. We agreed to it, then there were nights he was tired from work, I still was slacking on chores, the baby was late to bed, or I just didn't feel like doing anything or being spanked - I didn't bring it up, neither did he, then the prospect of all the delayed swats added up seemed like to much when he finally mentioned it. <br />
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After that, we took a break and he told me to work on some daily/weekly routines to see what was realistic for me to do each day. I did that and just waited. Yesterday, I mentioned it to him, and he asked me if I was sure I wanted to go through with it this time. I told him that I was and he looked over the list with me and told me which things were most important to him and assigned a certain number of swats for each thing left undone. I'm expected to start checking things off and keeping track of what's left undone and what any punishment will be starting tonight. For the rest of the month, we will just be tracking household tasks and chores then, next month, we will add accountability for the freelance work I do as well.<br />
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I am excited and nervous all at the same time. I have gotten more done just this morning than I usually do all day, so I'm sure he'll be pleased with that. I also just want to please him more now that I know what the expectations are that I'm trying to meet. It just feels better knowing that he will be taking control and guiding me.Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01465557928988017585noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161536482260603824.post-33954468594842616072011-10-11T14:17:00.000-07:002011-10-12T08:36:44.720-07:00Help Meet Cheat Sheet<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjstYtpC6n_SymaukABMjZ9149ml7XVHMpjSi1F10HfIg8TI03McghPadUEAdQ2D-zDG1dQxwuPbvCSf5nz01ij3rnopPB1q1BHN_t2KvnwRuOEcqBmrCvUtIqUKOxDRf6ZDxyUyI0H1PU/s1600/cheat+sheet.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjstYtpC6n_SymaukABMjZ9149ml7XVHMpjSi1F10HfIg8TI03McghPadUEAdQ2D-zDG1dQxwuPbvCSf5nz01ij3rnopPB1q1BHN_t2KvnwRuOEcqBmrCvUtIqUKOxDRf6ZDxyUyI0H1PU/s200/cheat+sheet.jpg" width="188" /></a></div><b><u>Note:</u></b> This list is written from a Christian point of view, but provides good advice for all wives. The more non-religious suggestions start at #12, if you just want ways to submit & help your husband.<br />
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<b>HELP MEET CHEAT SHEET<br />
</b>This is not a checklist, or list of standards; it is just a cheat sheet of ideas.<br />
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<b></b>1. Refuse to miss a day of Bible Reading<br />
<ul><li>Do not read in front of your husband – keep it private to avoid conflicts that some marriage have about “trying to be more spiritual”</li>
</ul>2. Pray before reading your Bible, “Open my eyes, Lord.”<br />
3. Teach the Word to your children through the course of regular interactions<br />
4. Make a commitment to prayer.<br />
5. Make a habit of prayer.<br />
6. Acknowledge any sin God reveals to you and confess it to the Lord.<br />
7. Pray for your husband.<br />
<ul><li>Pray for God to bless him as the leader of your family.</li>
<li>Pray for God to bless him as a man of God.</li>
<li>Pray for God to grow him spiritually.</li>
</ul>8. Pray for your children.<br />
<ul><li>Pray for them to grow strong in the Lord.</li>
<li>Pray for them to be trained up in the way they should go.</li>
<li>Pray that you would be able to train them the way God wants you to.</li>
<li>Pray for God to bless them.</li>
</ul>9. Seek to know your God-given role as a wife and mother.<br />
<ul><li>Find books, sermons on CD or DVD, articles, and blogs while you study and meditate on God’s Word and the teachings that apply to the most important things in your life: being a wife and mother!</li>
</ul>10. Keep a song of praise in your heart at all times.<br />
11. Keep a prayer in your mind at all times.<br />
<ul><li> “Lord, be with me at work at this moment and let me be a testimony.”</li>
<li> “Lord, give me the energy to joyfully do my job for just five more minutes.”</li>
<li> “Lord, thank you for the home you have provided me.”</li>
<li> “Lord, thank you for this hot running water.”</li>
<li> “Lord, thank you for a husband and children. Help me to be the wife and mother You want me to be.”</li>
<li> “Lord, bless my child and help her to grow to be a strong Christian.”</li>
<li> “Lord, bless my husband wherever he is at this moment.”</li>
<li> “Lord, I am so angry right now, I’m just going to tell you about it.”</li>
<li> “Lord, I am so hurt right now, I’m just going to tell you about it.”</li>
</ul>12. Study and know your husband.<br />
13. Be a servant to your husband.<br />
<ul><li>Let me get that! (water, keys, coat, shoes, seconds at dinner, ketchup, dessert, the remote, a snack, a tool, etc.)</li>
<li>Keep his clothes clean and put away so that they are easy to find.</li>
<li>Keep his “area” neat (favorite chair, desk, his side of the bed, his toiletries)</li>
</ul>14. Follow his leadership at the slightest opportunity (where to eat out, how to handle a home situation, whether or not to go somewhere, whether or not to buy something, what to watch on TV, how to fix something, etc.)<br />
15. Readily accept his advice for any situation and acknowledge that it is good advice, and thank him for it.<br />
16. Don’t be contentious or resistant to him in your spirit.<br />
17. Don’t embarrass your husband (your speech, appearance, behavior, neglect of your family or home)<br />
18. Prepare for his arrival each day (make sure his first perception of the house is that it is clean—even if it’s only the entry way and the area where he sits to relax, have a smile on your face, freshen your hair, clothes, or make-up, have the children clean and occupied, and have a smile on your face.)<br />
19. Never belittle him or make cutting remarks of any kind, even in jest.<br />
20. Speak a sincere word of praise or appreciation whenever possible:<br />
<ul><li> “I don’t understand how you can fix that. I’m completely clueless.”</li>
<li> “Thank you for fixing that. I’m so fortunate to have a husband who can do that.”</li>
<li> “Absolutely you made the right decision.”</li>
<li> “You are absolutely right.”</li>
<li> “You couldn’t have handled that (work situation, etc.) better.</li>
<li> “That was very smart.”</li>
<li> “That was totally the right thing to do.”</li>
</ul>21. Meet his gaze showing your love and acceptance of him—do not avert your eyes to show your hurt or disapproval and to punish him.<br />
22. Respond readily to his physical affection.<br />
<ul><li>Do not be stiff when receiving a hug or a kiss.</li>
<li>Do not resist physical advances: Pray instead. God will provide the grace.</li>
</ul>23. Offer a warm hug, a warm smile, and an unexpected kiss of approval and appreciation.<br />
24. Do not be financially independent. Let him control the finances.<br />
<ul><li> Even if you have always controlled and balanced the checkbook, start checking with him on budget amounts and spending decisions. Immediately concede to his input of any kind.</li>
<li>Look for every opportunity to praise his wise financial decisions.</li>
<li>Do not spend money foolishly—make sure he never has to worry about how his wife will spend money.</li>
<li>Check with him on any purchase that is not a necessity.</li>
<li>Do not argue or resist his financial decisions, even if you know they are bad ones. Pray instead. (Your silence and support is actually more powerful of an influence—try it and you will see!)</li>
<li>Remember that whatever decision your husband makes, it is God’s will for you. Your resistance and interference will actually cause more problems.</li>
</ul>25. Do not take matters into your own hands. Defer to your husband’s decisions whenever possible.<br />
26. Do not be your husband’s conscience.<br />
27. Do not nag. Ever. It is never a life or death matter.<br />
28. Show loyalty to him at all times.<br />
<ul><li>Never seek counsel outside of him without his approval.</li>
</ul>29. Encourage and wholeheartedly support any idea or goal he shares with you.<br />
30. Listen with your eyes, your ears, and be aware of your body language. It doesn’t matter how busy you are. Stop and listen and show him he is important to you and that you support him.<br />
31. Share his excitement over anything.<br />
32. Laugh at his jokes<br />
33. Look at him with admiration when he is around his peers to inspire their respect. (It is your job from the Lord to reverence him and to make him look good at all times.)<br />
34. Always seek to make him look successful.<br />
35. Spend the time and effort needed on your appearance because it shows you reverence your husband.<br />
36. Dress to please your husband.<br />
37. Dress modestly so he does not worry that you may be trying to attract other men.<br />
38. Remember what your husband likes:<br />
<ul><li>Cook his favorite meals.</li>
<li>Keep his favorite snacks handy.</li>
<li>Keep his favorite beverages handy.</li>
<li>Wear clothing you know he likes on you.</li>
<li>Wear your hair the way you know he likes.</li>
<li>Wear a perfume you know he likes.</li>
<li>Keep the children quiet, entertained, happy, engaged–whatever he likes!</li>
</ul>39. Care for your clothes and his clothes. Eliminate unused clothes.<br />
40. Create order in his environment (one step at a time is fine)<br />
<ul><li>Organize the bathroom cabinets</li>
<li>Organize his socks and underwear and keep it that way.</li>
<li>Make a permanent and tidy place for his pocket stuff (wallet, keys, change, receipts, screws, batteries, business cards).</li>
<li>Keep track of his “stuff” however you can</li>
</ul>41. Keep the home free of clutter<br />
42. Train your children to be neat, clean and organized<br />
43. Keep a meek and quiet spirit<br />
44. Do not speak in anger<br />
45. Stop a backbiting tongue by silence (Proverbs 26:20)<br />
46. Ask your husband your spiritual questions.<br />
47. Expect nothing from him (put all your expectation for fulfillment on the Lord, especially in moments where you feel empty or alone)<br />
48. Do not have the “marriage is teamwork and you’re not pulling your share” attitude. YOU commit 100% to your husband, regardless of how you think he is performing (you will only answer to God in the end for the kind of wife you were to your husband).<br />
49. Learn to prioritize (quick prayers often clear up moments or days of confusion).<br />
50. Organize one drawer, shelf, or area a day until your home has a place for everything and everything in its place—then keep it there.<br />
51. Train the children so that they make him proud.<br />
52. Train the children to love him and respect him.<br />
53. Never say a bad word about your husband to your children. Don’t even suggest in any way to them that he is not the “dad” he should be.<br />
54. Do not try to solve any of his problems without his consent.<br />
55. Overlook his faults.<br />
56. Overlook his little mistakes.<br />
57. Overlook his big mistakes.<br />
58. Forgive any offense that hurts you as quickly as you can (urgent prayer will take care of this—pray until you feel your anger subside and your pleasure in your husband return. At first this may take a few days. After a while, you will cut it to a few hours. With continued practice, you will be able to forgive, with prayer and God’s help, within a few minutes to a few seconds)<br />
59. Remember DAILY back to the beginning of your relationship and all the things that attracted you to him. Recall the smiles you had for him them and smile them all again.<br />
60. Stop for one minute and thank the Lord for your husband.<br />
61. Pray for God to bless your husband as the leader of your home and as the provider for your family.<br />
62. Smile.<br />
63. Laugh.<br />
64. Have joy.<br />
65. Be lighthearted and create a lighthearted mood in your home.<br />
66. Make him proud of his home, his wife, and his children.<br />
67. Make sure that he would be proud to invite his boss to dinner.<br />
68. Ask him for advice whenever you can, and always take it seriously—and tell him what good advice it is.<br />
69. When he tells you about his work, tell him how good he is at his job, in his position, and praise his strengths at work (his leadership, his diligence, his honesty, his integrity).<br />
70. Try to make all your words positive.<br />
71. Never talk bad about his friends or coworkers. Do not affirm when he talks bad about someone. You can nod sympathetically, but do not verbally agree.<br />
72. Do not be negative.<br />
73. Keep your speech clean and pretty—becoming to a lovely wife with a sweet spirit.<br />
74. Do not correct him. Especially in front of others. Let it go unless your life is on the line (it really doesn’t happen often!)<br />
75. Do not criticize him about anything. Not even about a shirt, how his hair looks, how he spends his time, what he spent his money on, or…anything.<br />
76. Pray for God’s strength and grace whenever—WHENEVER—you feel tired, angry, or that you just can’t do it. Even if it means praying 2,000 times a day. All you have to say is one word, “HELP!” He will.<br />
77. Pray for God to reveal to you the opportunity to do something on this list whenever possible.Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01465557928988017585noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161536482260603824.post-32745627046916320542011-10-03T15:17:00.000-07:002011-10-12T08:37:44.155-07:00(Lady Barton's) Rules for my Guidance as a Wife<div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: large;"><i><u><b>Rules for my Guidance as a Wife</b></u></i></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: small;">taken from </span></span><span class="st"><u><i>The <i>Romance of Isabel</i>, <i>Lady Burton</i></i></u> , by Isabel Lady Burton (1831-1896)</span><span style="font-size: large;"><i><u><b></b></u></i></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: large;"><i><u><b></b></u></i></span><br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Lady Burton at marriage</td></tr>
</tbody></table>1. Let your husband find in you a companion, friend, and adviser, and confidante, that he may miss nothing at home; and let him find in the wife what he and many other men fancy is only to be found in a mistress, that he may seek nothing out of his home.</dd></dl><dl><dd>2. Be a careful nurse when he is ailing, that he may never be in low spirits about his health without a serious cause.</dd></dl><dl><dd>3. Make his home snug. If it be ever so small and poor, there can always be a certain chic about it. Men are always ashamed of a poverty-stricken home, and therefore prefer the club. Attend much to his creature comforts; allow smoking or anything else ; for if you do not, somebody else will. Make it yourself cheerful and attractive, and draw relations and intimates about him, and the style of society (literati) that suits him, marking who are real friends to him and who are not.</dd></dl><dl><dd>4. Improve and educate yourself in every way, that you may enter into his pursuits and keep pace with the times, that he may not weary of you.</dd><dd></dd><dd>5. Be prepared at any moment to follow him at an hour's notice and rough it like a man.</dd></dl><dl><dd>6. Do not try to hide your affection for him, but let him see and feel it in every action. Never refuse him anything he asks. Observe a certain amount of reserve and delicacy before him. Keep up the honeymoon romance, whether at home or in the desert. At the same time do not make prudish bothers, which only disgust, and are not true modesty. Do not make the mistake of neglecting your personal appearance, but try to look well and dress well to please his eye.</dd></dl><dl><dd>7. Perpetually work up his interests with the world, whether for publishing or for appointments. Let him feel, when he has to go away, that he leaves a second self in charge of his affairs at home ; so that if sometimes he is obliged to leave you behind, he may have nothing of anxiety on his mind. Take an interest in everything that interests him. To be companionable, a woman must learn what interests her husband ; and if it is only planting turnips, she must try to understand turnips.</dd></dl><dl><dd>8. Never confide your domestic affairs to your female friends.</dd></dl><dl><dd>9. Hide his faults from every one and back him up through every difficulty and trouble; but with his peculiar temperament advocate peace whenever it is consistent with his honour before the world.</dd></dl><dl><dd>10. Never permit any one to speak disrespectfully of him before you; and if any one does, no matter how difficult, leave the room. Never permit any one to tell you anything about him, especially of his conduct with regard to other women. Never hurt his feelings by a rude remark or jest. Never answer when he finds fault ; and never reproach him when he is in the wrong, especially when he tells you of it, nor take advantage of it when you are angry ; and always keep his heart up when he has made a failure.
</dd><dd></dd><dd></dd><dd>11. Keep all disagreements for your own room, and never let others find them out.</dd></dl><dl><dd>12. Never ask him not to do anything — for instance, with regard to visiting other women, or any one you particularly dislike; trust him, and tell him everything, except another person's secret.</dd></dl><dl><dd>13. Do not bother him with religious talk, be religious yourself and give good example, take life seriously and earnestly, pray for and procure prayers for him, and do all you can for him without his knowing it, and let all your life be something that will win mercy from God for him. You might try to say a little prayer with him every night before laying down to sleep, and gently draw him to be good to the poor and more gentle and forbearing to others.</dd></dl><dl><dd>14. Cultivate your own good health, spirits, and nerves, to counteract his naturally melancholy turn, and to enable you to carry out your mission.</dd></dl><dl><dd>15. Never open his letters, nor appear inquisitive about anything he does not volunteer to tell you.</dd></dl><dl><dd>16. Never interfere between him and his family; encourage their being with him, and forward everything he wishes to do for them, and treat them in every respect (as far as they will let you) as if they were your own.</dd></dl><dl><dd>17. Keep everything going, and let nothing ever be at a standstill : nothing would weary him like stagnation.</dd></dl>Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01465557928988017585noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161536482260603824.post-24817818343718762972011-09-25T10:13:00.001-07:002012-03-01T23:24:38.927-08:00The Good Wife's Guide<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgGKfPS1Q3SVrZvc4a4azcW1GS0ZVPTM6YTdHZwKpGEB1AbInK_cZNbEkNgiVf73dNd80pFCCo7ADjEzz5FoDH6zjd9TZejYps9kozxc-_KYZClZFKkFF-ZHMqcLjZoSLjox0tJ0s2fvl49/s320/the+good+wife.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgGKfPS1Q3SVrZvc4a4azcW1GS0ZVPTM6YTdHZwKpGEB1AbInK_cZNbEkNgiVf73dNd80pFCCo7ADjEzz5FoDH6zjd9TZejYps9kozxc-_KYZClZFKkFF-ZHMqcLjZoSLjox0tJ0s2fvl49/s320/the+good+wife.jpg" /></a></div><span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>This article has been floating around the internet for years, and spread via fax before that. It appears to be a parody, not a real article from the 50s, but is still worth repeating. The majority of it seems to be paraphrased from the book </i><i><b>Fascinating Womanhood</b>, with a few additions.</i></span><br />
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<div style="text-align: center;"><b><i><u>The Good Wife's Guide</u></i></b></div><ul><li>Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed. </li>
<li>Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. </li>
<li>Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it. </li>
<li>Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dustcloth over the tables. </li>
<li>During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction. </li>
<li>Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet. </li>
<li>Be happy to see him. </li>
<li>Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him. </li>
<li>Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours. </li>
<li>Don't greet him with complaints and problems. </li>
<li>Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work. </li>
<li>Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. </li>
<li>Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice. </li>
<li>Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him. </li>
<li>A good wife always knows her place. </li>
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh-T9H97apuhmKt0oUxzrhIhf4yuQw4av2vIb286a1DzQ7-v5-jafASylOQdSDDc8RejyLwBECTFf5XUQqMbqMMXbUmMGc3ZwrUmkCMp1hQEXdm-QZlfjdxHa5C24U_ZubX8PfpWPBosRQ/s1600/goodwifeguide.gif" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="257" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh-T9H97apuhmKt0oUxzrhIhf4yuQw4av2vIb286a1DzQ7-v5-jafASylOQdSDDc8RejyLwBECTFf5XUQqMbqMMXbUmMGc3ZwrUmkCMp1hQEXdm-QZlfjdxHa5C24U_ZubX8PfpWPBosRQ/s400/goodwifeguide.gif" width="400" /></a></div>Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01465557928988017585noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161536482260603824.post-62692525902862328292011-09-21T13:23:00.000-07:002011-10-03T18:27:47.247-07:00What It Means to Be Submitted<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.dictionary-world.info/wp-content/uploads/Dictionary-1.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="129" src="http://www.dictionary-world.info/wp-content/uploads/Dictionary-1.jpg" width="200" /></a></div><b><span style="font-size: small;"><i> sub·mit</i></span></b><br />
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<div style="font-size: small;"><i>verb</i> /səbˈmit/ <span class="speaker-icon-listen-off" id="dictionary_speaker_icon_1"></span><br />
<span style="color: #767676;">submits, 3rd person singular present; </span><span style="color: #767676;">submitted, past participle; </span><span style="color: #767676;">submitted, past tense; </span><span style="color: #767676;">submitting, present participle</span><br />
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<li style="list-style: decimal;">Accept or yield to a superior force or to the authority or will of another person<div class="std" style="padding-left: 20px;"><ul><li style="color: #767676; list-style: none;">- the original settlers were forced to <i>submit</i> to Bulgarian rule</li>
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<li style="list-style: decimal;">Consent to undergo a certain treatment<div class="std" style="padding-left: 20px;"><ul><li style="color: #767676; list-style: none;">- he <i>submitted</i> himself to a body search</li>
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<li style="list-style: decimal;">Subject to a particular process, treatment, or condition<div class="std" style="padding-left: 20px;"><ul><li style="color: #767676; list-style: none;">- samples <i>submitted</i> to low pressure</li>
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<li style="list-style: decimal;">Agree to refer a matter to a third party for decision or adjudication<div class="std" style="padding-left: 20px;"><ul><li style="color: #767676; list-style: none;">- the U.S. refused to <i>submit</i> to arbitration</li>
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<h5 style="margin: 10px 0;">Synonyms</h5><div class="std"><i>verb</i>: surrender, present, give in, yield<br />
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To me, being submitted means that I freely surrender my will and the authority over my life to those in higher authority. First and foremost, I am submitted to God and follow His Word, the Bible. Secondly, and because God commands it of wives, I am submitted to my husband as the head of our household and my physical provider and protector as well as my spiritual and family leader and highest earthly authority.<br />
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As part of this submission, I consent to follow the rules and guidelines that have been set for me in love and to surrender my own will in order to do what it right by God and to lovingly serve and obey my husband. I recognize that he has both the right and command to lead me and the responsibility to do so with love and self-sacrifice.<br />
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To help us both in these matters, I have asked him to add the use of domestic discipline to our relationship to help me obey him and to help me to gain more willpower and self-discipline. I have a hard time staying focused on my domestic duties and taking care of our home as I should, so I am hoping that punishment for failing to do my duties will motivate me and help me to conquer laziness and procrastination.</div>Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01465557928988017585noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161536482260603824.post-90352019715286058002011-09-17T10:24:00.000-07:002011-10-11T15:38:06.600-07:00Hello!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjS1w0vzpOVNUFRADRdmkbUU3m4EXn_UQNA2SSoVok3SSmL6iL6j4oDGgWZYFIaIYD9MblLDfY7qv8Wvoi11IGSZsIRQCqRzemheMaTe-GkOXXTPy-4yb44K8nouNOgvlFGCZHRl_ekF-E/s1600/retrohusbandwife.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjS1w0vzpOVNUFRADRdmkbUU3m4EXn_UQNA2SSoVok3SSmL6iL6j4oDGgWZYFIaIYD9MblLDfY7qv8Wvoi11IGSZsIRQCqRzemheMaTe-GkOXXTPy-4yb44K8nouNOgvlFGCZHRl_ekF-E/s1600/retrohusbandwife.jpg" /></a></div>Hi, I'm Mrs. B, also known as "Wifey" or Marilyn. Since I'm starting this blog, I may as well introduce myself. :)<br />
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I am a stay at home wife in my late 20s. I've been married for 10 years and started out being very controlling and telling my husband it was "my way or the highway". My husband came from a family with a domineering, manipulative, mother and a father who was absent much of the time, so he accepted this and assumed it was just the way things were. My own mother is sort of controlling and very disrespectful to my father, so that was all I knew as well.<br />
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Over the years, especially since becoming a Christian, I have realized some of my mistakes. I studied what made marriages work in the past and what the Bible had to say on roles and behavior in marriage. I realized that we were doing things backwards and that I should respect and honor my husband as the head of our household and should submit to and obey him. This has been a big change for both of us, but I have been encouraged by some ladies who are wonderful examples in this area, and by the teaching of a few mentors and authors.<br />
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As an incentive for obedience, and to draw us closer, we are now adding elements of domestic discipline to our relationship. This was my choice, because I have a big problem with self-motivation and willpower and need some additional incentive. I tend to spend too much time online and not get my housework done, which really aggravates my husband. He finds spankings to be both bonding between us and arousing, so this should be a win-win situation for both of us.<br />
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This blog is a place for me to document these changes and to work out my thoughts and feelings on them. <br />
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This is not intended to be a sexually explicit or "punishment" blog, but it deals with adult and sometimes erotic topics by its nature, so please keep that in mind if you choose to read, follow, or subscribe.Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01465557928988017585noreply@blogger.com3