Saturday, September 17, 2011
I am a stay at home wife in my late 20s. I've been married for 10 years and started out being very controlling and telling my husband it was "my way or the highway". My husband came from a family with a domineering, manipulative, mother and a father who was absent much of the time, so he accepted this and assumed it was just the way things were. My own mother is sort of controlling and very disrespectful to my father, so that was all I knew as well.
Over the years, especially since becoming a Christian, I have realized some of my mistakes. I studied what made marriages work in the past and what the Bible had to say on roles and behavior in marriage. I realized that we were doing things backwards and that I should respect and honor my husband as the head of our household and should submit to and obey him. This has been a big change for both of us, but I have been encouraged by some ladies who are wonderful examples in this area, and by the teaching of a few mentors and authors.
As an incentive for obedience, and to draw us closer, we are now adding elements of domestic discipline to our relationship. This was my choice, because I have a big problem with self-motivation and willpower and need some additional incentive. I tend to spend too much time online and not get my housework done, which really aggravates my husband. He finds spankings to be both bonding between us and arousing, so this should be a win-win situation for both of us.
This blog is a place for me to document these changes and to work out my thoughts and feelings on them.
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