Sunday, September 25, 2011

The Good Wife's Guide

This article has been floating around the internet for years, and spread via fax before that. It appears to be a parody, not a real article from the 50s, but is still worth repeating. The majority of it seems to be paraphrased from the book Fascinating Womanhood, with a few additions.

The Good Wife's Guide
  • Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.
  • Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
  • Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
  • Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dustcloth over the tables.
  • During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
  • Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.
  • Be happy to see him.
  • Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
  • Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
  • Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
  • Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work.
  • Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
  • Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
  • Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
  • A good wife always knows her place.

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

What It Means to Be Submitted


verb /səbˈmit/ 
submits, 3rd person singular present; submitted, past participle; submitted, past tense; submitting, present participle
  1. Accept or yield to a superior force or to the authority or will of another person
    • - the original settlers were forced to submit to Bulgarian rule
  2. Consent to undergo a certain treatment
    • - he submitted himself to a body search
  3. Subject to a particular process, treatment, or condition
    • - samples submitted to low pressure
  4. Agree to refer a matter to a third party for decision or adjudication
    • - the U.S. refused to submit to arbitration

verb: surrender, present, give in, yield


To me, being submitted means that I freely surrender my will and the authority over my life to those in higher authority. First and foremost, I am submitted to God and follow His Word, the Bible. Secondly, and because God commands it of wives, I am submitted to my husband as the head of our household and my physical provider and protector as well as my spiritual and family leader and highest earthly authority.

As part of this submission, I consent to follow the rules and guidelines that have been set for me in love and to surrender my own will in order to do what it right by God and to lovingly serve and obey my husband. I recognize that he has both the right and command to lead me and the responsibility to do so with love and self-sacrifice.

To help us both in these matters, I have asked him to add the use of domestic discipline to our relationship to help me obey him and to help me to gain more willpower and self-discipline. I have a hard time staying focused on my domestic duties and taking care of our home as I should, so I am hoping that punishment for failing to do my duties will motivate me and help me to conquer laziness and procrastination.

Saturday, September 17, 2011


Hi, I'm Mrs. B, also known as "Wifey" or Marilyn. Since I'm starting this blog, I may as well introduce myself. :)

I am a stay at home wife in my late 20s. I've been married for 10 years and started out being very controlling and telling my husband it was "my way or the highway". My husband came from a family with a domineering, manipulative, mother and a father who was absent much of the time, so he accepted this and assumed it was just the way things were. My own mother is sort of controlling and very disrespectful to my father, so that was all I knew as well.

Over the years, especially since becoming a Christian, I have realized some of my mistakes. I studied what made marriages work in the past and what the Bible had to say on roles and behavior in marriage. I realized that we were doing things backwards and that I should respect and honor my husband as the head of our household and should submit to and obey him. This has been a big change for both of us, but I have been encouraged by some ladies who are wonderful examples in this area, and by the teaching of a few mentors and authors.

As an incentive for obedience, and to draw us closer, we are now adding elements of domestic discipline to our relationship. This was my choice, because I have a big problem with self-motivation and willpower and need some additional incentive. I tend to spend too much time online and not get my housework done, which really aggravates my husband. He finds spankings to be both bonding between us and arousing, so this should be a win-win situation for both of us.

This blog is a place for me to document these changes and to work out my thoughts and feelings on them.

This is not intended to be a sexually explicit or "punishment" blog, but it deals with adult and sometimes erotic topics by its nature, so please keep that in mind if you choose to read, follow, or subscribe.